One of the first steps to trying to save a marriage is seeking for help. This is because, after trying to sort out issues on your own, having a new person look at your situation and give you insight on the same will go a long ways in shedding light on your issue. It is therefore important for a couple to get a professional counselor in such a situation.
When looking for a counselor, the first thing you need to look out or is their qualifications. In order for one to be called a professional counselor, there are various qualifications different places require them to have. To keep your mind at ease, do not hesitate to ask for their qualifications as professional counselors when in doubt.
Other than their qualification, their years of experience is another factor you need to consider. The longer a counselor has been practicing for, the better equipped they are to handle your marital issues. New counselors mostly have theoretical approaches to issues and may not be able to address your issues well.
The other thing you need to consider as a couple when going for marital counseling is choosing a counselor that is unbiased. With this in mind, do not go to a counselor that is a friend or knows about you outside of counseling as they will not be able to give solutions that favor the both of you. Go to counselor you both know will give you a solution that is not based on their emotions towards you.
Choose a counselor who shares th same beliefs as your two. Having a counselor who does not subscribe to your beliefs or lifestyle maybe hard as they may give solutions that are againts your union. One of the things you need to know before you start on counseling is what the counselor’s views on polygamy, polyandry, same sex marriage, and divorce are. The counselor’s views on such issues will greatly determine their reaction to your problem.
A counseling session can only be successful if there is a level of confidence between the couple and counselor. The first step of opening up and talking about their issue is a couple being able to trust their counselor. Going for a counselor you two are not free with will not get you anywhere.
The cost of counseling is another thing you need to factor in. Since different counselors charge differently, figure out the counselor you can afford. once you have settled for a counselor, come up with a payment plan for the sessions so this does not become another issue.
Figure out when the two of you are available for a session before you see the counselor as they mostly work during normal working hours. In case you are caught u al day, go for a counselor that works past normal office hours. A counseling session is only effective if the two of you are available.